Written by Timothy Czekaj
When two people exchange wedding vows, a messy breakup may be the last thing on their minds. However, the sad truth is that many relationships do not last. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), between 40 and 50 percent of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. If you and your spouse are parting ways, you may not know how you will handle the separation.
The Pennsylvania divorce lawyers at Czekaj Law, LLC understand that dealing with the legal aspects of a divorce can be draining. With years of experience in helping people protect their rights, they can help you make the big decisions, such as those related to property division and child custody.
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1.Lack of Support
Many people assume that a lack of support during tough times is one of the most common reasons for divorce. However, many couples claim that it is much more disheartening when their spouse does not celebrate during moments of triumph. If you receive a promotion, for example, and your spouse has little to no reaction, you may feel as if they do not care about your happiness. You might start to think they are jealous of your success, and may not give them updates in the future.
2.Incompatible Spending Habits
When one spouse lists finances as a reason for divorce, they might not be talking about general hardship. Instead, they may have a problem with their significant other’s spending habits. Many couples do not talk about how finances should be handled before they get married, and end up getting into arguments about spending. If a frugal shopper and someone who values fine and expensive products get together, they may constantly fight about how resources should be allocated.
In some instances, financial troubles might be caused by addiction. If one spouse has a gambling problem or substance abuse issues, a married couple may fall behind on bills or see their savings eaten away. While engaging in these harmful activities might not cause direct conflict between you and your spouse, the financial consequences may.
3.The Legacy of Divorce
There is scientific support for the idea that the children of separated parents are more likely to get divorced when they mature. According to a study conducted over 25 years at the University of California, only 60 percent of children of divorced parents decide to marry. Of those individuals, 40 percent eventually file for divorce. This number is much higher than the divorce rate for children of married parents.
Many have suggested that the children of divorced parents have difficulty developing love, sexual intimacy, and dedication in relationships. This could be due to the fact that for those who have suffered through a divorce as children, the idea of marriage may only be associated with pain and mayhem. They may be afraid that their lives will become full of arguments and sadness if they tie the knot.
For some, a marriage may end after years of slow deterioration. In other cases, people describe a “final straw” that leads them to seek a divorce. In a study published by the National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI), nearly a quarter of individuals who said there was a definitive reason for seeking a divorce listed infidelity as the primary cause.
In the study mentioned above, the most commonly cited reason for divorce was a lack of commitment. When commitment is an issue, it is often related to one or both partners being unwilling to work on the relationship, or an inability to resolve conflicts in a constructive and helpful way. Additionally, for some people, marriage may have just sounded appealing for financial purposes or was only done to appease family members; such reasons are ultimately not conducive for long-term relationships.
How Czekaj Law, LLC Can Help
Whether you are getting divorced because of an unforgivable action or general incompatibility, the processes involved can be painful. However, you do not have to bear this burden alone.